Category: Family


Baseball

I have to say that I really enjoy this time of year. The weather is warmer (though now it’s cooling off with lots of rain). The grass is green and growing (along with the weeds), the trees all have leaves, flowers are beginning to sprout and in some cases bloom, and baseball is well underway.

Baseball has always been a favorite sport of mine. I never was very good at playing it. I still can’t throw a ball very well. But I do love watching baseball. Whether it is the Cardinals or Zach’s baseball team, I enjoy watching and admiring the players do what I never seemed to be able to do well. Oh, I also enjoy watching Rachel play softball, but it’s a different game and quite unlike what you get in baseball.

The last few Springs I’ve taken the time to watch the classic documentary series by Ken Burns that was on PBS many years ago simply called Baseball. If you’ve never had the opportunity to watch it, I encourage you to do so. It’s quite lengthy (about two to two and a half hours per episode). There are nine “Innings” or episodes to the documentary. It begins with the roots of baseball through the turn of the 1900s, then an Inning per decade until you reach the 70s and 80s which are also combined. It’s packed full of names you may never have heard of and feats of talent that will make the baseball lover in you turn green with envy.

One of the things that I love about baseball is how it endures and continues without much major change. The rules are pretty much the same as they have always been since the beginning, with the exception of that dastardly thing called the designated hitter (don’t get me started on that). Through two world wars and a conflict or two thrown in for good measure, through the Great Depression and other economic downturns, through scandals and owners blocking out African-Americans and treating its players no better than slaves, through all sorts of things that could destroy anything else, baseball survives. And you can see the joy that it gives to the players, the fans (especially the kids), the young and old alike, baseball has a way of making things better, if only for a few hours (or longer if you go into the 20th inning).

Baseball is that thing that sometimes frustrates you to the breaking point. The decisions that a manager or player makes (or doesn’t make), the inability to “catch a break” with a hit, or to see the opposing team get that hit that just seems to barely get over the fielder’s glove can be maddening. But then you see that catch that no one thought could be caught, or you get a double play when it is needed most. You hear the sound of a bat that connects to a hard-hit ball that sales over the fence, and everything is right in the world once again.

You see, baseball is all about getting home, and not just getting home, but getting home safe. To make it home safely, where your friends greet you with a clap on the back, a high five, or an exploding fist (something that Zach taught me). That’s what we all really want. To be home safely with family and friends who love and care for you, no matter what you have done in the past. Is there anything more enjoyable than baseball?

Happy Anniversary, Carolyn!

Today marks the twentieth anniversary that my beloved wife has had to put up with me. I know I haven’t always been the easiest to live with over the years, but God has truly blessed me with you. You have blessed me with four wonderful children and a lifetime of memories.

My brother John was my best man and kept me mostly under control that day. He bought me a yo-yo as a gift to keep me occupied. Learned how to walk the dog that day. The sermon had a story in it about how to get along with other kindergartners in the sandbox and related that to how you can get through a marriage. Don’t remember the details, but know that the best way to make a marriage long-lasting is to remember that a marriage is an image of Christ and the Church. You have to practice repentance and forgiveness often. And don’t be afraid to let your kids see it in action.

A couple other notes about that day…

  1. We were the last couple to be married in the old sanctuary at Carmel Lutheran Church. Last time I looked, the altar we stood before now has a basketball rim, though this may have changed. I haven’t been in that room in a while.
  2. There were three other couples that were married around the same time. We were all in the same young adult group and were close friends.
  3. The music that we had in our wedding would not be allowed in any marriage that I would perform today. I don’t remember exactly what they were (I’ll have to watch the video again tonight), but the last time I saw the video I remember thinking they didn’t put Christ as the center of the marriage.
  4. The gifts I gave to all the groomsmen were tennis shoes. I hated the rentals that came with the tux and got them so that I could change shoes for the reception.
  5. The reception was a buffet meal with an open bar. The bartender must have thought me a lush. I must have gone up for twenty or so beers. Thing is, I probably didn’t have but two or three beers the whole night. They must have assigned someone to grab the beer the minute I set it down. Take a sip, then a quick picture and, “Hey, who took my beer?”
  6. Our honeymoon was in Hawaii. Was absolutely beautiful there. Almost lost my ring in the sand the first day. We were supposed to go snorkeling, but there was an earthquake on the West Coast that week and the waves didn’t allow us to go into the cove. Still enjoyed seeing dolphins and whales from the rubber boat, though. The helicopter tour was awesome and the Mai Thais were fresh and delicious.

Speaking of Hawaii, we were planning on going back for our fifth anniversary. By then I was at the seminary with two kids and a third on the way. “We’ll go at our tenth” we said. Then I was in my second parish, with four kids and things just didn’t work out. We still haven’t made it back, but still hope to do so some day. Maybe the twenty-fifth!

Carolyn, I love you more now than I did twenty years ago! May God continue to bless our union for another twenty or forty years!

Things Are Finally Slowing Down…At Least For Now

At least for a little while. Basketball is pretty much over. All the kids are done with school basketball. Josh played in his last basketball game of his High School career and was elected “Mr. Basketball” by the team on Senior Night. He didn’t get a lot of play time this year, but we were still proud of how he handled it and how he played hard when he was put in. Next week track starts for him. He’s a distance runner so will be running 1600 and 3200 meter races.

Rachel also finished a good year of basketball. She didn’t start a lot, but got in a lot of playing. She’s tough on the defensive end and works hard whenever she’s playing. She’s done with school sports for this year, but will be busy with her new job at C&R (a local grocery store) as well as playing on a competitive softball team this spring/summer. I’m sure she’ll also play some softball and basketball this summer with the school programs as well. As usual, she’ll be busy.

Zach is had a good year playing basketball as well. He also wasn’t a starter, but also got a lot of play time. He was always the calm-in-the-eye-of-the-storm kid out there, always picking up the others on the team (sometimes literally) and leading the team by his actions. He’s now playing some competitive ball with some of the other boys. They’re learning what it’s like to play the big schools. Most of the teams they’ve played the last few weekends have had several players that are over 6’2″ tall and weighing 180. They’ve played hard though and we’ve received quite a few comments about how well Zach has played. He’s running track (1600 Meter) this spring as well as playing on his competitive baseball team this spring/summer.

Becca also didn’t get a lot of playing time in her first year of basketball, but also played well. She was always good for several baskets and rebounds and is starting to get the hang of playing defense. It’s all in the footwork! She’s been playing on a competitive volleyball team for the last month and has had several tournaments. She’s the tallest on the team and does quite well up front. She’s also one of the better servers on the team putting in 80-90% of her serves. Volleyball is going to be her sport. She’s also started up in track. Don’t know what she’s going to do. She’s got that Etzler speed, so she won’t run sprints. She doesn’t want to run distance, so it looks like she’ll be doing some jumping. :)

All in all, Carolyn are quite proud of our kids accomplishments and enjoy watching them play in their various sports. We’ve been blessed with good kids who respect the others they play with and against, as well as the coaches and teachers. God is truly good.

Carolyn and I are slowing down for a little while. I’m still working full time at CTS as well as part-time at Shepherd of the Hills Lutheran Church. It’s Lent, so we have services every Wednesday night, confirmation on Sundays after church, as well as other activities. The storm will begin again later this month with Holy Week, at least three track meets a week, business trips, baseball, softball, basketball, Synodical convention, as well as a vacation thrown in.  Carolyn is putting in a lot of overtime lately trying to keep up with all the studies that ABC Labs. Maybe we’ll get some rest sometime. Like in five or six years when all the kids are out of the house!

I’ll try and post here from time to time to let you know what’s going on. You can also go to the blog I host of Shepherd of the Hills Lutheran Church for a series on the Catechism.

Zach’s Touchdown Pass

My son Zach is in eighth grade this year. He’s the starting quarterback and had a game on Monday night. Here’s one of two touchdown passes that he threw in his 6 for 7, 175 yard night. Thanks to Michael Ralphs for the video!

It’s That Time of Year

The Cardinals have been having a rough time clinching the division lately. After a hot August, things have cooled off for them in September. Hopefully they will heat back up in October. While we wait, here’s the classic from Abbott and Costello.

Who’s On First

Memories from Mom

Recently my mother was diagnosed with ALS, more familiarly known as Lou Gehrig’s disease. Her form seems to be rather aggressive. She’s gone from no symptoms in September to needing a walker and wheelchair presently. So please keep my family (especially my mother and father) in your prayers in the months to come.

The reason I bring this up is that lately she’s been sharing with us some of the entries from her journals that she has been keeping over the years. This was something I was unaware that she has done and has been a pleasant trip down memory lane. The good, the bad and the ugly.

Growing up, my dad (the eternal pessimist) always said, “You need to plan for the worst, so when things work out right, you’ll be pleasantly surprised.” You see, he is a retired structural engineer. His job was always to plan for the worst case scenario.

Take, for example, this from my mom’s memories:

Monday February 25, 1974

First day of sectional tourney today and “Kid Day” at school – show school spirit and dress like a kid…At supper table Bob said “Hope you win tonight” Me – “What a time to change tactics”. Denise – “Yeah, it makes me nervous.” Bob – “Well I don’t expect you to win, just hope you do.” They felt better. They did win the game 70 – 65 over Wayne.

It’s quite ironic that a few years ago he was voted the “Optimist of the Year” from the Optimist Club that they belong to. Though in this regard I tend to take after my mom, his outlook has been quite beneficial from time to time.

My mother, on the other hand, is the epitome of the eternal optimist. One thing theme that has run throughout her memories is how much she has been blessed by the Lord. No matter what the situation (again, the good, the bad, and the ugly), she sees the hand of God working through the situation to ultimately benefit our family. She truly believed in Romans 8:28 (ESV) “And we know that for those who love God all things work together for good, for those who are called according to his purpose.” It’s an outlook that I have not had at times.

Looking back through her memories, I can indeed see how God’s hand has moved through the history of my family, how He has guided, protected, and kept us all in His hands. Maybe it’s time that I start up a journal. Looking back, I know that I too will see God’s hand at work in our lives.

Getting Back Into the Action

I haven't posted on this blog very often. With everything that's been going on, I've opted to spend more time with the other things in life. But now things are beginning to slow down, so I'll try and post a bit more often.

So what's been going on? Well, not much, and quite a bit. The kids are all continue to shoot up. Josh is approaching 6', but still is barely over 120 lbs. He just finished his third year in cross country lettering for the third time as well. When you watch him running, it seems that he's so much smaller than those he competes against. His track coach still has high hopes for him saying that Josh won't really be grown into his body until he's in college. I'm quite proud of the way he fights through the wind and the hills and his continued improvement. Now he's starting basketball and hopes to get some play time on varsity this year.

Rachel seems to be topping off at 5'8". She just finished softball with the second highest batting average on the team (she got beat out by 0.003 for first). She has improved greatly over her previous year and is doing quite well. This year you can tell that she is much stronger, especially after her back surgery almost two years ago now. She has also started basketball which continues to be her favorite sport.

Zach just finished his first year of middle school football. He was the quarterback and did quite well. The varsity coach was quite impressed with his arm and how he handles himself under pressure. Carolyn doesn't handle herself quite as well when he's under pressure, but his team was fun to watch this year. They ended up 4-2 for the season with one of the defeats going to a team who's seventh grade is bigger than Zach's whole school. Zach has also begun basketball practice. There's 23 or so kids who went out for the team this year and Zach will be part of the team that goes to all the games.

Becca is now taller than Zach (much to his chagrin). She played some softball this summer and has also started playing basketball. (Can you tell that we'll be running all over the place again this winter?) She's looking forward to being able to play sports for the school next year where she wants to play volleyball as well as basketball.

Carolyn and I continue with our current employment. She's been at ABC Labs in Columbia for a bit over a year now. She's been quite busy, putting in quite a few hours making deadlines, but she enjoys the work and the people she's associate with. I've been with Central Technology Services for over a year as well and continue to enjoy my work as well. I'm also still pastoring the good people at Shepherd of the Hills Lutheran Church in Fayette, Missouri part time.

Well, that's what's been going on. As you can see, we're usually quite busy, but that keeps us out of most trouble. :)

Great Cartoon

Snakes

Feeling Old

Yesterday my oldest son turned 16. It doesn’t seem like it’s been that long ago since I was a first-year seminary student trying to wrap my head around Hebrew. I can still remember him in his little airplane hanging from the doorway bouncing up and down for hours. Now he’s thinking he’s going to get a set of car keys (like that’s going to happen!).

Joshua has turned out to be a fine young man. He’s a sophomore now who is quite busy with athletics. He lettered in Cross Country for the second year in a row and is now playing JV Basketball. On top of that, he’s in the top five of his class in grades. Going to parent-teacher conferences is a joy as we get to hear all the good things his teachers and coaches have to say about him. Indeed, we have truly been blessed.

Happy birthday Josh! We love you.

I Guess It Has Been a While

It has been quite a while since I have posted on this particular blog. Looking back, it’s been almost seven months. Has time really gone by that fast?

Anyway, there has been a lot of activity in our family since then. Only a few posts ago, but over a year ago I talked about Rachel’s back surgery. In June she was released to do whatever she felt she was physically able to do. That included playing on the JV softball team earlier this fall and on the freshman girl’s basketball team now. Her recovery has been quite remarkable. We give thanks to God that He has blessed her recovery.

This summer the Etzler family all gathered in South Dakota for a family reunion. All of my siblings, four sisters, a brother, and my parents, along with their families all gathered for the festive event. We went to Mount Rushmore, toured some caves, did some hiking, hit the Badlands, and rode for long periods of time in the van. We drove from Custer, SD to home all in one day, not something I’d like to do a lot of. Here’s a picture of my family in front of the “heads.”

The picture doesn’t really show how tall the kids are getting. Joshua and Rachel are now both taller than Carolyn and Becca edged Zach over the summer. It was a lot of fun seeing everyone and nature at its finest.

October brought a new job for me. I now work for Central Technology Services, a division of Central Bancompany. They fourteen or so banks in the Missouri region, spilling into Illinois, Kansas and Oklahoma. I’m currently the Citrix administrator and have really enjoyed the change. I now have a commute of about an hour (their offices are in Jefferson City), but I’ve filled the time listening to books on tape and have come to enjoy the alone time to wind down after work.

Carolyn also started a new job in November. She’s now a Quality Assurance Assistant at ABC Labs in Columbia. It has been quite an adjustment for everyone involved, but all is going well on the home front.

Those are just the highlights of the last few months. We’re usually running most every night of the week. I’ll try to pick this back up and start posting again (thanks for the nudge, Walt!).

Peace be with you.